*contemplating*
Today at WW I met up with a lady that used to attend the same meetings as me on a Thursday - we are going back 14 mnths ago now. Anyway, I changed my meetings and we lost contact. It was lovely to see her again and she was very flattering about my success today. She kinda fell off the wagon and returned to meetings like a scolded puppy. She's not obses, just uncomfortable with the extra 10kgs shes carrying. Anyway ... she says to me ... you must be so close to goal now, how much to go? I replied 30kgs and she said along the lines of dont be so blimin ridiculous, you cant have that much to go.
Now ... I'm starting to get used to hearing this. Alot of people I have talked to recently have said there is no possible way I would have 30kgs to go.
Are these people just being nice? Or am I genuinely looking trimmer than what I think I do? Is this the old self body image thing raring its ugly head again? The point is ... I DO have 30kg (33 to be exact) to go and thats just to get to the TOP of my healthy weight range. THE VERY TOP @ 84kg.
My take on this is that because these people have seen where I have come from and are acknowleding what I have achieved so far as an absolute success. Now I say this because ... for all the NEW people I meet, who dont know where I have come from or what I have achieved - I bet a hundred bucks they wouldnt say that. I would expect they would probably think ... wow theres a chick that is carrying too much weight - I couldnt possibly imagine they would think wow she looks good for her height LOL. See its all about perceptions.
Because all my friends and family have something to compare me with - i.e. the old Leenie with the new improved Leenie version - they can make those statements. Of course they are being nice, they are being encouraging and probably stroking my ego which is bloody great, but is it giving me a false sense of success? Because I have been so massive most of my life, they are seeing a new person they perhaps havent seen before. Now without sounding ungrateful for their support which I am truely appreciative and grateful for - perhaps this is why I'm in the whole self denial thing and being complacent - cos hey everyone says I'm looking great, so I must be alright? Right?
At the end of the day ... I'm the one that sees myself nakkid in front of the mirror and I'm the one that knows exactly where that 30kgs needs to come from. It's something I need to do some self searching on I think. I think I need to take some photographs, from all angles and in different clothing, only then will I see what others see - hopefully.
Anyhowwwwwwwwwwww ... at weigh in today I lost 1kg ... shock horror! This ole girl still has it in her *shrug*. I didnt get out of bed in time this morning and so I didnt go for a walk so decided to take my togs to work and I did manage to go swimming. It felt great - again I just swam and swam without counting lengths. It was lovely and it was such a gorgeous day to be in an outdoor pool!
I have a WW dvd to watch tonight - got it free with my weekly booklet. WW has gone up ... $17.95 a meeting now. That doesnt concern me ... its only another $1 in my life's investment - first price hike since I started two years ago.
ooh got this lil song in my brain now ...
and they swam and they swam all over the dam - boop boop diddle daddle waddam choo! boop boop diddle daddle waddam choo! boop boop diddle daddle waddam .....
hehe
Tuesday, February 07, 2006
Are People Just Being Nice?
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Yay for another kilo gone - well done. I agree that weight is all about perception and I think people saying things like that (ie, you look great and don't need to lose any more weight) can cause people to give up. I know you won't do that though!
Wooohoooo awesome loss mate :) Well done and yes the "old girl" sure does have it left in her! :)
Yes everyones ideas on weight are different and it is amazing how people can perceive things from totally angles.
YOU ROCK!!!!
Great loss Helena - you must be doing something right!!
I had similar comments made to me -people were used to a bigger Anne - then I would tell them what my BMI was and at that stage nowhere near the healthy range.
Maybe cos you are so nice and tall you carry your weight well. You will know when you are at the right weight for you:)
Hi Leenie, first time post. I do know about you and know that you are an inspiration to others. Glad you made your blog open to others. I know where you're coming from when you say you are the one that sees you naked, lol. But never lose sight of how far you have come. I still have 9 - 10 kg to lose, but like you I like my vino. The thing is that somehow it has to figure into everything, especially the weigthloss. Because afterall this is a lifestyle change and we have to enjoy our life. But I must say you are still MARVELLOUS!!!
wow girl have been inside my head I have been thinking similar thoughts of late when folks say to me u must be nearly at goal and I say nah still 30-50 to goand get comment where???? For me it actually reminds me how long a journey have to trek ahead ugh. Great a kilo gone can't wait till May and we can catchup everytime I wear my K and K skirt I think of u and think hey I mustlook nearly as good as Leenie does in that photo. (we r similar heights and skirts r same size) keep on keeping off!!!
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